Vent: family requests

I need to vent to kind internet strangers because I’m about to lose my mind.

My wedding is 8 months out. We chose a beautiful mountain town in Colorado, where my fiance and I reside. Most of our family are in New England and our friends live all over the country and the world. I wanted a small intimate wedding on a Greek island with just immediate family, but my fiance really wanted something bigger so I compromised.

My fiance receives a text from his brother today asking what our “plan b” is for our wedding. He said the 30+ hour drive will be too hard on his mother and disabled sister. My fiance told him there is no “plan b” - this is where our wedding will be. We’ve already signed contracts with the venue, photographer, caterer, DJ. My friends and family from other countries already purchased their plane tickets to fly in.

Of course, we aren’t changing anything and I told him he can tell his brother they can fly and if they choose not to then we understand they won’t be able to be in attendance. His brother said “that’s f’ed up”.

I’m dumbfounded by the audacity to ask someone what their “plan b” is 8 months from the wedding.

Edit to give more context: my fiance is not close with his mom or sister, they have a very difficult and strained relationship. I am also not close to them, despite my efforts to get to know them. We did discuss with his family that we wouldn’t be having a destination wedding to ensure they felt included, but we would be planning for it to be in Colorado since that’s where we live. We understood that planning a wedding that isn’t close to friends and family would mean not everyone could come and we are perfectly okay with that.