AITA Wedding Drama!! (Or not yet actually)
Ahhh, where do I even start? So I (F27) am getting married to my fiance (m28) this year! So from the beginning and for context, I am an only child - my fiance has 3 sisters, 1 sister I speak to but not often busy lives different people whatever I know where I stand with her so we get on and that's fine! Let's call her SIL1, SIL2, we used to be super close, not so much anymore but this again doesn't really bother me life whatever, however SIL3 we have been super close since day 1 (again for context me and fh have been together for 10 years, so I'm not really an unknown entity) I even helped SIL3 to plan basically her whole wedding 2 years ago and I was her "secret moh" (so not to upset sil1&2) so when me and fh got engaged in October they were all super happy for me. Or so I thought🤷🏼♀️. SIL3 expressed how she was so excited to come dress shopping, help me plan, help me organise- now this is where I need your help to figure out if I've caused this myself or not. When she said all this I said (since we've been together for 10 years) I pretty much had everything figured out, I knew he was going to propose and we had discussed it being this way for the past 2-3 years so I had some time to start putting things in place before he even popped the question 🤣 but I did say yes of course I'd love for you to help me with odd bits when I need it but pretty much needed to just execute the plan as it were. So mindful of the fact that she wanted to help I've got all the bits out of the way that I knew I wanted a certain way etc and have recently been trying to include her in the little things like helping with bridesmaids dresses, hen do, order of services little things like that and now she pretty much completely blanks me. I just feel like nobody is haply for us and since its not about any of them, why should they care? SIL2 isn't even coming on my hen do, didn't even consider it just point blank said sorry I can't come - I don't want to leave my children for 2 days (both children are 12 so not little kids and would be home with their dad and she has done this before for others so couldn't really understand why but again whatever) I'm now In a headspace where I think well f*** you, you can't be bothered to even have a normal non wedding related conversation with me and I've got all three of you as bridesmaids and paying for all your stuff etc and they don't even speak to me
So reddit, am I being an a-hole, would you cut them off? Am I being too sensitive? Help a girl out 😭