Embarrassing concern about laparoscopic surgery

Hello! 39F here. No prior surgeries or pregnancies or hospitalizations.

I don’t currently need surgery, but since I’ve had ovarian cysts in the past and my appendix could act up at any time, I would really like to stop worrying about this.

My concern specifically is the umbilical port…

It’s hard to even type this, but my navel is extremely sensitive and is an erogenous zone. It’s been both a source of great pleasure and deep shame throughout my life, which is why I’m hoping to get a serious answer here.

I’m concerned that if a trocar is placed through my navel, I will lose sensitivity there once it heals.

I worry my quality of life would be significantly impacted if I lost sensation, and would prefer my navel be left alone… I would risk open surgery for this or ask them to use a different site for the port, if that’s even possible. I don’t care about poor cosmesis at ALL because I already have faded stretch marks from gaining/losing weight.

My other concern is -HOW- to even address this with a surgeon. I don’t imagine this is a very common issue that pops up when considering risks and benefits. And, since I was a medical transcriptionist, I also worry about how this extremely personal information would be documented in my chart.

So- I would really appreciate insights about port placement and/or any advice on how to effectively communicate to a surgeon about all of this so I don’t humiliate myself further.

Thank you kindly!