Self Improvement After a Relationship Ends

As a therapist, I have noticed that people start to take important steps towards self-improvement when a relationship ends.  There are the obvious steps of going to the gym to get fit and look better, because you are more conscious of your appearance when you are thinking about dating.

But the end of a relationship can motivate people to make deeper changes. For example, people might try to discover the types of activities that they enjoy on their own now that they don’t have to worry about their partner’s opinion. In addition, being alone can push people to become more social.  

I know few people want their relationship to end.  But the silver lining is that it can turn into an unexpected opportunity to develop new skills, take chances, or make changes in your behavior that you wouldn’t ordinarily make.