Why are all online doms like this?

Why are all online findoms so … vulgar? First thing they tell everyone and to the world is that you are worthless, they want to destroy your life etc. I find that really off putting.

Is it because guys really want that? Because I think that one can be classy, self-confident and dominant without telling you that you are piece of shit in the first sentence.

Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy humiliation as the next guy but when it’s directed and personal. Not random sentences repeated all the time. Plus life is hard as it is, who wants to be treated like shit ALL the time?