My sex life is fucked

Me and my partner have been together for 3 and a half years now. In the first year of our relationship, everything in our sex life is good. We had been very active on that year, but on our second year our sex life have declined drastically. We’ve gone from 5 times a week to once a week and until now, we’re on once in 3 months. We have had fights about it, we’ve discussed how it affects my mental health, and she always promise to make it up to me but she always fail to do so. This problem affects me a lot because my sex drive is very strong and I’ve endured this sex life crisis for more than 2 years now. I have even considered cheating on her multiple times already but I could not do it because I love her so much. I don’t know what to do now and I don’t how long I can be able to deal with this. I also told her that it will be better for us to part ways/break up for the hopes of figuring things out on our own but she won’t break up with me. She moved in with me since the start of our relationship and I just can’t kick her out of my house. Everytime I pull the break up card, she would reassure me that we’ll try “tomorrow” but “tomorrow” never comes, it will just be another day of broken promises.

Also, everyday that I got to live with this problem I always remember what my ex said to me and it’s taking a toll on me. It cuts deeper each day. She said, “You’ll never find someone better than me when it comes to making love.” On the first year with my current partner, I laughed at it because it wasn’t true at all. She was extraordanary in bed, she was an expert on making me feel like I’m the luckiest. But now, God bless my sex life because it is fucked fucked fucked.

Edit: Okay, since this post have blown up, I want to make it clear to you guys that I never threaten to break up so I can have sex. I INITIATED/OFFERED to break up because I thought that it will not going to work for the both of us, and I meant it each time, it was all done calmly and wholeheartedly. That that is the better way for us. I “still respect” her if she does not want to have sex, there no pressuring happened. I exerted all of the patience left in me. In fact, there are times that were about to have sex but it felt like she don’t want it, she’s already naked, but I stopped because I don’t want it to feel forced. I always wanted it to feel like making love. And so we’ll lay in bed and talk until we fall asleep. She, herself, recognized that there is something wrong that has been going on with her sex drive. The problem is, she’s not putting any effort to address it. And we’ve talked about that over and over but nothing changes. Everytime I initiate to cut if off with her she says no, she always say “Okay, I’ll leave but I’ll take you with me.” And yes, SHE initiated therapy, but she does not have time for it, im up for it, but it keeps getting pushed and somehow forgotten. Now, I don’t talk to her about sex anymore. If I become touchy with her and she says no, then I’ll back down right away, just like that.

We are a happy couple, perfect couple, as how our friends describe us. We are very honest to each other, we can talk about each other’s insecurities without getting offended. It’s just that, sex is the only problem and I guess we are not compatible when it comes to it.

It’s an “off my chest” community after all. All of you are entitled to your own opinions based on your experiences and perspectives. Go on and be who you are.