Family is unfair

I'm the youngest in my family of 4. My oldest brother passed away 7 years ago now. Since my brother had passed away, my marriage ended in divorce, my two sisters and I got into a dispute, and my parents and I don't have a great relationship but we try to make it work in a sense we don't talk about the past which still hurts now for me.

Anyway, that's another story for another post.

My issue here is my family don't see the effort, kindness, and visitation my little family give them. My family moved to our house for 7 months because they couldn't find a rental property on time. When they left our house, since then, my parents haven't come to visit, have coffee and have a chat with me. They live aprrox 6 minutes away from us. Its a small town. The only time they come around, especially my mum is when they need money or ask for anything else. They never come around to check on me, see how I am, talk about anything etc. I have helped my parents so much especially my 2 sisters too.

I have been realising how unfair my family is, how we will always randomly go over to my parents every 2 weeks or weekend to see them, eat with them, chat with them, have kids play there etc. But they never come to our house.

My sister used to complain about the size of my old place ( unit/ apartment) she had kids and needed to play, I only had one kid and was a single parent too. Now that I got a bigger house with a decent size backyard she still makes excuses about her kids. I guess I never please them with anything. But I still try to push my emotions aside just to go over and be a family.

Now I'm in deep thought about my life, future and my little family. I need your positive opinions, what could I do differently?

I have told my current husband that I don't want to go to my parents for a couple of months even a year, I don't want to answer any phone calls or messages. I want them to show up to my house and check on me, see how I am.

I did confront my family about their behaviour and all they do is give excuses and laugh to brush it off. They only want to know me when they need something from me. I'm creating resentment a bitterness. I feel like crying at times cause my relationship with them has fallen apart. I don't feel I belong anymore.