Newly Disabled Mindset Help Request

I didn't see a flair for this. I'm looking for advice. I'm newly disabled. I have endometriosis and some other as yet undiagnosed neurological disorder. I previously had chronic pain and fatigue with occasional nerve pain. After the first surgery, everything got much worse, and I now have motor function problems with my legs. I feel them, but if I try to walk they just spasm and collapse. I've been using a wheelchair since November. Every once in a while I'll have a good day where I can make a walk down the hall, a great day and I can make it to the end of the driveway. I'm still using crutches or a cane for this.

I had another endometriosis surgery, and when I came out of anesthesia I was praying my legs would be fixed, too. The doctors did tell me the two things aren't connected even though it started after the first surgery, but I was still hopeful. Well, they started shaking as soon as I woke up. No dice.

I'm still working with specialists on diagnosis.

The advice part:

How do I reframe my mindset to be kinder to myself about what's happened/what I can't do?

I really want to walk again. How do I keep that hope without causing myself more grief?

I started seeing a counselor to try and work through things, but it hasn't been that helpful. I wish there was some kind of tangible tips or something on how to do this. Aside from the emotional processing, more like literally how.

My kitchen for example. Not very accessible. How can I organize things so I can get to them?

How do I manage my energy load?

Financial guidance, as the cost of trying to find out what's wrong and also try to fix what I know is wrong is becoming unmanageable. I work full time, but bills pile up even with insurance.

Thank you for reading this. Advice and resources are appreciated. The things I've found by googling the topic are a bit superficial.