Question to the women here who have lots of matches on dating apps but haven't been in or don't care much to be in a relationship: How do you reconcile having so many options, and wanting to date, but yet finding all or 95% of men not good enough?

This is not an attack. I am genuinely interested in your thought-processes. This is not aimed at the women who are actively dating.

Let's say you're a young, average woman. You're on dating apps. You are not desperate to find a man, but you are on the lookout. You have 100s, maybe even 1000s of likes on said apps. Excluding the morons, sexists, jerks and fuckboys, there are a fair few guys who seem genuinely interested in getting to know you. You have a lot of choice.

But yet, you haven't gone on many dates for years. The men elicit no excitement in you. You don't even want to give them a chance. How do you reconcile having so many options, and wanting to date, but yet finding all or 95% of men not good enough? If I may be so bold, roughly how many likes or matches do you have right now?

Do you think the men are just not goodlooking enough for you to give them a chance? Do you think you might be a bit picky, but that's because you'd prefer to be single over not being with a guy that checks 95% of the boxes? Indeed, did you try to date a guy that you were iffy on and you just couldn't do it, and thus, will never try it again?

Do you think: "what I am attracted to, so many other women are attracted to it too, which gives those men more options, which, in turn, means dating is futile for me, so I don't bother"? Do you think: "I'm comfortable with my life as it is, with work, gym, pets, my apartment, friends. Men will ruin it. My exes were jerks"? Do your friends feel similar?

Do men feel like something to "deal with" later in life? Are you fine with hookups with goodlooking guys for now or do you not partake in that either?
Do you SEE the types of men that you WOULD want to date, maybe out IRL or somewhere or are you bored of men generally?