Even after doing everything I could, having bad times every week or so

Hello all, I'm a 38yo M married via arranged marriage to my wife 37yo about 6 years ago We have a 5 yo daughter. When we got married I was in a WITCH company with pay of about 70k and by my family's advice moved to a new home on loan for which the emi was 27k.. add to that I had to take another PL for some registration charges etc about 12k for 3 years.. and our daughter was born so it was very very difficult period financially and my wife who's an ma, bed wanted to become a teacher was preparing for her exams.. I filled her application forms, she qualified for ctet but never got through the final hurdle..all this while blaming me and my family for not supporting her.. We stay in NCR and used to visit family every 4-5 months.. she went to allahabad for some time to prepare with my then 3 yo daughter.. came back more than 2 years ago on my initiative.. she's been to our parents placed twice in these 2 years..and I hear complaints of her cooking food and taking care of my parents and all the sacrifices she did and does..and she'd someone update a whatsapp status with lots of jewellery and would taint me that she never got anything, even though it was about 3 lakhs of jewellery given in 2018

Now since the times she's been back, I transfer her 20k every month.. she started doing some tuitions but after 6 months, not more than 2-3 students with total income of 2-3k per month.. she stated youtube channels which she hoped would pick up instantly.. I know that when I told her to be patient and target at least 6 months - 1 year for monetization, she didn't like it.

I don't know how and why I told her I'd get a bonus of about 1l in December and wanted to use that to renovate my house in the village and since then she's adamant that she needs a jewellery of that amount and no renovation work. I can even do that but I know it's not going to make her content

Once again there'll be something.. I've tried doing a lot of things.. minimal interaction with my sister's whom she doesn't like and who themselves haven't been fair to her honestly.. But it's getting too much for me At this point it's my daughter, parents and societal pressure that I don't think of any drastic step 20-22 days a month are good but the rest are hell and I don't like what my daughter will understand about life living this way

What can I do and how can I make her understand my point of view.. she thinks I'm sending money to parents, sister's when I've opened my account transactions to her but still she'll keep blaming me..

I make about 1.6 l per month..spend every thing in the house out of my pocket.. EMIs, school fees, bills.. I transfer 40k each month.. 20 k for groceries and 20 for her saving or sacrifice .. but still she wants jewellery and stuff over and above it

I know I might have been wrong starting to transfer the amount, but could have used that for jewellery..now she wants both and I don't understand what I should do..

Anything I like such as the car emi, she'd say she could've very well travelled in an auto and never wanted a car anyway..

I know there's no silver bullet but is this normal or am I facing too much.. any suggestions, please help.